Comments for Discovering Pride: Coming Out Midlife http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com LGBT Coaching Fri, 11 Dec 2009 02:57:43 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Take The “Am I A Lesbian?” Quiz by Pat http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-939 Pat Fri, 11 Dec 2009 02:57:43 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-939 Hi, Forget about the sex. Really, just forget about it. People think "gay" or "lesbian" and the first thing that comes to mind is sex. Instead, wait to fall in love. Wait for the person that comes along and makes your legs weak and puts butterflies in your tummy and who you can't stop thinking about all day no matter how hard you try. When you feel like that about someone, you will want to have sex with them, no matter the gender they are. That will give you your answers. Be patient. It is not necessary to know everything at 19. Life is a journey and we learn along the way. Hi,

Forget about the sex. Really, just forget about it. People think “gay” or “lesbian” and the first thing that comes to mind is sex. Instead, wait to fall in love. Wait for the person that comes along and makes your legs weak and puts butterflies in your tummy and who you can’t stop thinking about all day no matter how hard you try. When you feel like that about someone, you will want to have sex with them, no matter the gender they are. That will give you your answers. Be patient. It is not necessary to know everything at 19. Life is a journey and we learn along the way.

]]> Comment on Take The “Am I A Lesbian?” Quiz by hey there http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-938 hey there Fri, 11 Dec 2009 02:07:17 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-938 hey... im 19 and trying to figure out whether or not i am gay. heres the thing, i find men sexualy attractive but i can never connect, you know?? then with girls i could go either way. depending on the girl, i would love to be a relationship with a girl, but then the sex thing scared the heck out of me. because i am stubborn az, i faced my fear and slept with a girl (who is a friend) but never took it any futher than just sex, because i didnt feel comfortable after we had slept together. my head is a mess about all of this... and this is just the beggining of "everything" (haha) i have considered that i might be bi... that doesnt make my feelings any clear to me... help?? hey… im 19 and trying to figure out whether or not i am gay. heres the thing, i find men sexualy attractive but i can never connect, you know?? then with girls i could go either way. depending on the girl, i would love to be a relationship with a girl, but then the sex thing scared the heck out of me. because i am stubborn az, i faced my fear and slept with a girl (who is a friend) but never took it any futher than just sex, because i didnt feel comfortable after we had slept together. my head is a mess about all of this… and this is just the beggining of “everything” (haha) i have considered that i might be bi… that doesnt make my feelings any clear to me…

help??

]]> Comment on Support Tips for Lesbians Married to Men by Pat http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/10/31/support-tips-for-lesbians-married-to-men/#comment-937 Pat Thu, 10 Dec 2009 02:49:02 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=641#comment-937 Thank you for the kudos! It's survival, but nothing worth while is easy! Thank you for the kudos! It’s survival, but nothing worth while is easy!

]]> Comment on Support Tips for Lesbians Married to Men by bridgeout http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/10/31/support-tips-for-lesbians-married-to-men/#comment-936 bridgeout Wed, 09 Dec 2009 19:46:54 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=641#comment-936 I am so glad to see you have written this! I so wish this was around like 11 or 12 years ago. But it is here now. I survived my journey, and am still walking along side my sweet partner. I am so glad to see you have written this! I so wish this was around like 11 or 12 years ago. But it is here now. I survived my journey, and am still walking along side my sweet partner.

]]> Comment on Take The “Am I A Lesbian?” Quiz by Summer 101 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-932 Summer 101 Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:36:04 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-932 I think ur crushes on guyz r just ur way of reasuring ur self th@ ur still part of e community... sweetie stop lieing to ur self, find a lesbian u like and follow ur heart.... wen u find ur girl tell me @ munotimba@gmail.com I think ur crushes on guyz r just ur way of reasuring ur self th@ ur still part of e community… sweetie stop lieing to ur self, find a lesbian u like and follow ur heart…. wen u find ur girl tell me @ munotimba@gmail.com

]]> Comment on Take The “Am I A Lesbian?” Quiz by Summer 101 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-931 Summer 101 Wed, 18 Nov 2009 16:27:20 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-931 Honey, if you find yourself staring @ a guy and u luv the name marrisaa AND u r jealous of Angelina Jolie....... then hell ya ur GAY Honey, if you find yourself staring @ a guy and u luv the name marrisaa AND u r jealous of Angelina Jolie……. then hell ya ur GAY

]]> Comment on Why Didn’t I Know I Was Lesbian Before Midlife? by Pat http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/02/28/why-didnt-i-know-i-was-lesbian-before-midlife/#comment-930 Pat Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:39:34 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=126#comment-930 Hi CW, One of the worst things is feeling the isolation that you are experiencing. I remember being there myself and it is not a pleasant place to be. Yes, you can certainly call me--just to talk sometimes helps. Write to my email at pat@discoveringpride.com and we can set up a time. I'm here! Hi CW,
One of the worst things is feeling the isolation that you are experiencing. I remember being there myself and it is not a pleasant place to be. Yes, you can certainly call me–just to talk sometimes helps. Write to my email at pat@discoveringpride.com and we can set up a time. I’m here!

]]> Comment on Why Didn’t I Know I Was Lesbian Before Midlife? by CW http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/02/28/why-didnt-i-know-i-was-lesbian-before-midlife/#comment-929 CW Tue, 10 Nov 2009 06:55:51 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=126#comment-929 Hi Pat, CW again. It's been a long while since I was here last and hope you find this message. Thanks for the link to the youtube videos. I watched them all and funny thing is my husband watched them with me. I kind of wonder if he sort of knows that I am lesbian because I share so much about LGBT with him. I am going to see my Dr and wonder if I should ask her a few things I have been wondering about myself? I have no one to talk to about this so it is difficult for me. I have found it easier to accept me for me (thanks to you). In my own mind I can say I am a lesbian while having a conversation with others who know nothing. I laugh when they start to talk trash about LGBT people. Although, I don't know what to say to them so I leave it where the conversation sits. I can't be bothered because they call other people bigots and sinners. Yet they sit there on their high horse. Sick huh? I still am alone with my thoughts and questions because there really is no one here who is of like mindedness. Such shallow minds they don't even realize how bad they are. It's sad, really. This is so funny because I feel like a police officer under cover or a secret service person when I am talking with people who blab about how awful LGBT people are. That is why I laugh because they have no idea who I am and they trust me through and through but also it makes me sad because they are talking trash about me and a lot more others in this world. I am here typing this because I need to release my thoughts and wonder if you don't mind listening. I would love to write a book from a womans perspective, for the world to see how truly hurtful they are and how we LGBT struggle with living this secret. Thank you so much for being here and listening Pat. Is the offer still open for that phone call? Just wondering and thought it would be nice to share my story with someone who has not heard about my life. Sorry about typing so much just a little lonely. All the best, CW Hi Pat, CW again. It’s been a long while since I was here last and hope you find this message. Thanks for the link to the youtube videos. I watched them all and funny thing is my husband watched them with me. I kind of wonder if he sort of knows that I am lesbian because I share so much about LGBT with him.
I am going to see my Dr and wonder if I should ask her a few things I have been wondering about myself? I have no one to talk to about this so it is difficult for me. I have found it easier to accept me for me (thanks to you). In my own mind I can say I am a lesbian while having a conversation with others who know nothing. I laugh when they start to talk trash about LGBT people. Although, I don’t know what to say to them so I leave it where the conversation sits. I can’t be bothered because they call other people bigots and sinners. Yet they sit there on their high horse. Sick huh?
I still am alone with my thoughts and questions because there really is no one here who is of like mindedness.
Such shallow minds they don’t even realize how bad they are. It’s sad, really.
This is so funny because I feel like a police officer under cover or a secret service person when I am talking with people who blab about how awful LGBT people are. That is why I laugh because they have no idea who I am and they trust me through and through but also it makes me sad because they are talking trash about me and a lot more others in this world.
I am here typing this because I need to release my thoughts and wonder if you don’t mind listening. I would love to write a book from a womans perspective, for the world to see how truly hurtful they are and how we LGBT struggle with living this secret.
Thank you so much for being here and listening Pat. Is the offer still open for that phone call? Just wondering and thought it would be nice to share my story with someone who has not heard about my life.
Sorry about typing so much just a little lonely.
All the best,
CW

]]> Comment on 12 Signs Your Lesbian Relationship Is Over by Pat http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/12-signs-your-lesbian-relationship-is-over/#comment-927 Pat Fri, 06 Nov 2009 13:13:29 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=615#comment-927 Well said! Just because there is an initial chemical attraction, does not mean the relationship is destined to be successful. Real life intervenes! If the relationship becomes too much work, it is just suffering all around. Well said! Just because there is an initial chemical attraction, does not mean the relationship is destined to be successful. Real life intervenes! If the relationship becomes too much work, it is just suffering all around.

]]> Comment on 12 Signs Your Lesbian Relationship Is Over by hazel http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/12-signs-your-lesbian-relationship-is-over/#comment-926 hazel Fri, 06 Nov 2009 06:14:22 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=615#comment-926 i agree Pat. i guess that's what i meant by "consistently generally good". no relationship is 100% hassle free. but painful relationships (like the one i came from) could last for years and take away so much from a person, despite the fact that both parties love each other. all the points in this list were definitely present in my past relationship and it went on for 5 years because we were good people who loved each other and wanted to try harder. we brought out the worst in each other in the end and did ourselves and others great damage. now, i am in a relationship where i find myself happy every day. i never knew this kind of consistent happiness and peace of mind before and i am grateful that it exists after all. some say love is hard work, but i find that untrue. good love brings out the best in people so that kindness, consideration, and gentleness becomes second nature. :) i agree Pat. i guess that’s what i meant by “consistently generally good”. no relationship is 100% hassle free. but painful relationships (like the one i came from) could last for years and take away so much from a person, despite the fact that both parties love each other. all the points in this list were definitely present in my past relationship and it went on for 5 years because we were good people who loved each other and wanted to try harder. we brought out the worst in each other in the end and did ourselves and others great damage.

now, i am in a relationship where i find myself happy every day. i never knew this kind of consistent happiness and peace of mind before and i am grateful that it exists after all. some say love is hard work, but i find that untrue. good love brings out the best in people so that kindness, consideration, and gentleness becomes second nature. :)

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