Comments for Discovering Pride: Coming Out Midlife http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com LGBT Coaching Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:39:34 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Why Didn’t I Know I Was Lesbian Before Midlife? by Pat http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/02/28/why-didnt-i-know-i-was-lesbian-before-midlife/#comment-930 Pat Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:39:34 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=126#comment-930 Hi CW, One of the worst things is feeling the isolation that you are experiencing. I remember being there myself and it is not a pleasant place to be. Yes, you can certainly call me--just to talk sometimes helps. Write to my email at pat@discoveringpride.com and we can set up a time. I'm here! Hi CW,
One of the worst things is feeling the isolation that you are experiencing. I remember being there myself and it is not a pleasant place to be. Yes, you can certainly call me–just to talk sometimes helps. Write to my email at pat@discoveringpride.com and we can set up a time. I’m here!

]]> Comment on Why Didn’t I Know I Was Lesbian Before Midlife? by CW http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/02/28/why-didnt-i-know-i-was-lesbian-before-midlife/#comment-929 CW Tue, 10 Nov 2009 06:55:51 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=126#comment-929 Hi Pat, CW again. It's been a long while since I was here last and hope you find this message. Thanks for the link to the youtube videos. I watched them all and funny thing is my husband watched them with me. I kind of wonder if he sort of knows that I am lesbian because I share so much about LGBT with him. I am going to see my Dr and wonder if I should ask her a few things I have been wondering about myself? I have no one to talk to about this so it is difficult for me. I have found it easier to accept me for me (thanks to you). In my own mind I can say I am a lesbian while having a conversation with others who know nothing. I laugh when they start to talk trash about LGBT people. Although, I don't know what to say to them so I leave it where the conversation sits. I can't be bothered because they call other people bigots and sinners. Yet they sit there on their high horse. Sick huh? I still am alone with my thoughts and questions because there really is no one here who is of like mindedness. Such shallow minds they don't even realize how bad they are. It's sad, really. This is so funny because I feel like a police officer under cover or a secret service person when I am talking with people who blab about how awful LGBT people are. That is why I laugh because they have no idea who I am and they trust me through and through but also it makes me sad because they are talking trash about me and a lot more others in this world. I am here typing this because I need to release my thoughts and wonder if you don't mind listening. I would love to write a book from a womans perspective, for the world to see how truly hurtful they are and how we LGBT struggle with living this secret. Thank you so much for being here and listening Pat. Is the offer still open for that phone call? Just wondering and thought it would be nice to share my story with someone who has not heard about my life. Sorry about typing so much just a little lonely. All the best, CW Hi Pat, CW again. It’s been a long while since I was here last and hope you find this message. Thanks for the link to the youtube videos. I watched them all and funny thing is my husband watched them with me. I kind of wonder if he sort of knows that I am lesbian because I share so much about LGBT with him.
I am going to see my Dr and wonder if I should ask her a few things I have been wondering about myself? I have no one to talk to about this so it is difficult for me. I have found it easier to accept me for me (thanks to you). In my own mind I can say I am a lesbian while having a conversation with others who know nothing. I laugh when they start to talk trash about LGBT people. Although, I don’t know what to say to them so I leave it where the conversation sits. I can’t be bothered because they call other people bigots and sinners. Yet they sit there on their high horse. Sick huh?
I still am alone with my thoughts and questions because there really is no one here who is of like mindedness.
Such shallow minds they don’t even realize how bad they are. It’s sad, really.
This is so funny because I feel like a police officer under cover or a secret service person when I am talking with people who blab about how awful LGBT people are. That is why I laugh because they have no idea who I am and they trust me through and through but also it makes me sad because they are talking trash about me and a lot more others in this world.
I am here typing this because I need to release my thoughts and wonder if you don’t mind listening. I would love to write a book from a womans perspective, for the world to see how truly hurtful they are and how we LGBT struggle with living this secret.
Thank you so much for being here and listening Pat. Is the offer still open for that phone call? Just wondering and thought it would be nice to share my story with someone who has not heard about my life.
Sorry about typing so much just a little lonely.
All the best,
CW

]]> Comment on 12 Signs Your Lesbian Relationship Is Over by Pat http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/12-signs-your-lesbian-relationship-is-over/#comment-927 Pat Fri, 06 Nov 2009 13:13:29 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=615#comment-927 Well said! Just because there is an initial chemical attraction, does not mean the relationship is destined to be successful. Real life intervenes! If the relationship becomes too much work, it is just suffering all around. Well said! Just because there is an initial chemical attraction, does not mean the relationship is destined to be successful. Real life intervenes! If the relationship becomes too much work, it is just suffering all around.

]]> Comment on 12 Signs Your Lesbian Relationship Is Over by hazel http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/12-signs-your-lesbian-relationship-is-over/#comment-926 hazel Fri, 06 Nov 2009 06:14:22 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=615#comment-926 i agree Pat. i guess that's what i meant by "consistently generally good". no relationship is 100% hassle free. but painful relationships (like the one i came from) could last for years and take away so much from a person, despite the fact that both parties love each other. all the points in this list were definitely present in my past relationship and it went on for 5 years because we were good people who loved each other and wanted to try harder. we brought out the worst in each other in the end and did ourselves and others great damage. now, i am in a relationship where i find myself happy every day. i never knew this kind of consistent happiness and peace of mind before and i am grateful that it exists after all. some say love is hard work, but i find that untrue. good love brings out the best in people so that kindness, consideration, and gentleness becomes second nature. :) i agree Pat. i guess that’s what i meant by “consistently generally good”. no relationship is 100% hassle free. but painful relationships (like the one i came from) could last for years and take away so much from a person, despite the fact that both parties love each other. all the points in this list were definitely present in my past relationship and it went on for 5 years because we were good people who loved each other and wanted to try harder. we brought out the worst in each other in the end and did ourselves and others great damage.

now, i am in a relationship where i find myself happy every day. i never knew this kind of consistent happiness and peace of mind before and i am grateful that it exists after all. some say love is hard work, but i find that untrue. good love brings out the best in people so that kindness, consideration, and gentleness becomes second nature. :)

]]> Comment on 12 Signs Your Lesbian Relationship Is Over by Pat http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/12-signs-your-lesbian-relationship-is-over/#comment-925 Pat Fri, 06 Nov 2009 04:03:12 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=615#comment-925 Hi Hazel, I agree partly. Good love does flow--but that doesn't mean you won't have disagreements sometimes. I think when deciding to stay or flee, it's important to look at the whole lifespan of the relationship. If the good times outweigh the hard times...significantly...then it is definitely worth working through the rough spots. Hi Hazel,
I agree partly. Good love does flow–but that doesn’t mean you won’t have disagreements sometimes. I think when deciding to stay or flee, it’s important to look at the whole lifespan of the relationship. If the good times outweigh the hard times…significantly…then it is definitely worth working through the rough spots.

]]> Comment on 12 Signs Your Lesbian Relationship Is Over by hazel http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/12-signs-your-lesbian-relationship-is-over/#comment-924 hazel Fri, 06 Nov 2009 03:43:28 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=615#comment-924 just run. it's too much work even if it's love-based. what i learned is GOOD LOVE comes naturally. it just flows, no hard work involved. and it is consistently generally good for one's well being. just run. it’s too much work even if it’s love-based. what i learned is GOOD LOVE comes naturally. it just flows, no hard work involved. and it is consistently generally good for one’s well being.

]]> Comment on 12 Signs Your Lesbian Relationship Is Over by Jamie London http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/12-signs-your-lesbian-relationship-is-over/#comment-923 Jamie London Mon, 02 Nov 2009 15:28:50 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=615#comment-923 Such a great post. I'm deeply involved in relationship issues (for couples of all orientation), specifically the exploration if just WHEN a relationship is over, or when it might be saved. So many people give up on a love-based relationship before it’s too late. So how do you know when is a relationship over? When all love, respect and commitment is gone. As long as there’s a grain of those things left, there is hope that the relationship can be saved. Love-based relationships are too precious to give up on without a fight. Such a great post. I’m deeply involved in relationship issues (for couples of all orientation), specifically the exploration if just WHEN a relationship is over, or when it might be saved. So many people give up on a love-based relationship before it’s too late. So how do you know when is a relationship over? When all love, respect and commitment is gone. As long as there’s a grain of those things left, there is hope that the relationship can be saved. Love-based relationships are too precious to give up on without a fight.

]]> Comment on Why Do Straight People Fear Gays? by Pat http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/why-do-straight-people-fear-gays/#comment-922 Pat Sat, 31 Oct 2009 13:07:06 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=590#comment-922 Hahaha...is this comment meant as a joke? Because it looks like a joke to me. As I stated in my article, the actual FACTS are that straight men rape gay men and lesbians...usually either in jail settings as a control and humiliation technique or to "teach us a lesson" and show us how a "real man" does it. As far as your You Tube vid...yeah, that's a great source...first, fantasy is not action...second, it could have been a bigoted frat boy posting a hoax. I really don't blame you for withholding your name...I certainly would not want MY name associated with such blatant bigotry and ignorance. Hahaha…is this comment meant as a joke? Because it looks like a joke to me. As I stated in my article, the actual FACTS are that straight men rape gay men and lesbians…usually either in jail settings as a control and humiliation technique or to “teach us a lesson” and show us how a “real man” does it. As far as your You Tube vid…yeah, that’s a great source…first, fantasy is not action…second, it could have been a bigoted frat boy posting a hoax. I really don’t blame you for withholding your name…I certainly would not want MY name associated with such blatant bigotry and ignorance.

]]> Comment on Why Do Straight People Fear Gays? by Name Withheld for my protection http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2009/08/22/why-do-straight-people-fear-gays/#comment-921 Name Withheld for my protection Fri, 30 Oct 2009 23:55:23 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/?p=590#comment-921 Because homosexuals have extreme difficulty controlling their behaviors/urges. Therefore, they may brutally rape a straight man. I saw a youtube video where a homosexual man stated that most of them have this fantasy. Because homosexuals have extreme difficulty controlling their behaviors/urges. Therefore, they may brutally rape a straight man. I saw a youtube video where a homosexual man stated that most of them have this fantasy.

]]> Comment on Take The “Am I A Lesbian?” Quiz by Pat http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-920 Pat Tue, 27 Oct 2009 00:56:10 +0000 http://discoveringprideblog.wordpress.com/2007/11/27/take-the-am-i-a-lesbian-quiz/#comment-920 Hi Rika, There's no rush to tell anyone. Why not wait until you are sure and more comfortable with it? Hi Rika,
There’s no rush to tell anyone. Why not wait until you are sure and more comfortable with it?

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