12 Signs Your Lesbian Relationship Is Over

Are you in a lesbian relationship (or any relationship!) and wondering if it has run its course? How do you decide when to bail? Of course there are the obvious red flags, like cheating and abuse, but what if the troubles are more subtle than that. Here are a few ways to tell if you [...]

Build A Lesbian Social Network, Wherever You Live

Are you a woman over 30  who is just now coming out as a lesbian? If you aren’t quite sure where you fit in socially, it may be time to develop some new friendships. It’s always a good idea to put some effort into building a strong lesbian social network. Meeting other lesbians can help [...]

Lutherans Made The Right Choice

Hey, the vote is in. And the ELCA has decided gays are able to serve as clergy, even if they are sexually active. Whooo–hoo. Now, that being said, and don’t get me wrong, I’m thrilled to have made the cut, but I hated having my rights “voted on.” There is just something subhuman about that.
And [...]

Why Do Straight People Fear Gays?

Interesting question posed in my title. Why the hell do they fear us? Here are my theories:
Religion/Fear of Damnation: Religious-types, in particular, are concerned about being able to control their environment, especially with respect to the behaviors of people in their environment. The behaviors they favor are backed by their religious beliefs. That can [...]

Lesbian Empty-Nester

Yikes, my son is leaving for college AGAIN this Saturday (he’s a junior). I’m already feeling sick. When he left for his freshmen year, I thought, “That’s it, I’ve gotten past all this empty-nest separation anxiety, now that’s over with.” Not so. Turns out that after every holiday (summer being the worst, as it’s the [...]

Gay Lutheran Ordination

So, this week the religion I was raised in, Lutheran, will decide if I, as an active lesbian, would be good enough to be ordained as a Lutheran clergy member, or not. I think it is ludicrous. I don’t need the church to be making a decision on my viability as a candidate, only God’s. [...]

For My Regular Readers

I’m feeling kinda bad about my blog in the past few months…for the most part I’ve really been allowing it to coast along on my old articles. Time to get a few new ones up and be more conscientious about writing! My coaching business is still up and running, but I have been busy with [...]

Coming Out Means Putting YOU First

When you get right down to it, what is coming out about? It’s about being who you are. It’s about putting yourself, the core of yourself, first.
Which begs the question, what goes second? That would be other people’s sensibilities. Other people’s sense of being offended by our sexuality. Other people’s fear of us (another blog [...]