The Problem With The Closet

I visited with a lesbian friend last evening. Her history is similar to mine…we were both married 20 years, with 2 kids, and we went through the divorce process more or less at the same time. Yet our philosophies about being openly out about our sexual orientation are vastly different. I am, well, openly out, [...]

A Movie For Gays And Lesbians Grappling With Religion

Here’s a thought-provoking and informative movie for people who are struggling with guilt and oppression resulting from conflicts over religion and homosexuality.

Until I hear back from Daniel Karslake (director and producer), I have removed the YouTube links to the full version of this movie from my site. The trailer gives you [...]

Help! This Lesbian Is In Panic Mode For Christmas

There are only 4 shopping days left and I have a present for everyone on my Christmas list EXCEPT my partner. I don’t even have a clue and I am starting to go into panic mode. Nothing seems quite right.
On a philosophical level, this is not really my fault. It is a side-effect of living [...]

Telling Your Parents You Are Gay Or Lesbian

There is not much in life that is harder to do than to tell your parents that you are gay or lesbian. Most of us put it off for quite a while. The question is, what makes it so hard? For one, we generally don’t like to disappoint our parents. Unfortunately, being gay or lesbian [...]

Loss vs. Tradeoff In Coming Out

Many times men and women who discover they are gay or lesbian later in life are afraid to make the changes they want to because of what they will (or think they will) lose in the process. They may think they will lose family and friends. They will most likely lose money. They may lose their [...]

Coming Out Is Not Easy

Recently someone wrote to me stating that my blog implied it was “easy to come out.” If that is the case, I certainly do not mean it to be so. Even the very existence of this site implies that people have a hard time with the issue and may need guidance or support in their [...]