Posted on +00002008-10-31T07:13:49+00:00312008bUTCFri, 31 Oct 2008 07:13:49 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
You are a lesbian. You have a straight female friend at work. Over time you have developed a crush on her and now that crush is turning into head-over-heels love. You are going nuts Monday through Friday, 9 to 5 and the weekends and evenings aren’t going to well either. What are the chances you [...]
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Posted on +00002008-10-26T08:57:01+00:00312008bUTCSun, 26 Oct 2008 08:57:01 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
Do you experience shame and guilt over being gay or homosexual? It’s easy for me to say, “Stop, there’s nothing to be ashamed about!” But it’s a lot harder to put into practice. The reason for this is that the seeds for shame and guilt are usually sown over a period of many years, since [...]
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Posted on +00002008-10-24T22:58:59+00:00312008bUTCFri, 24 Oct 2008 22:58:59 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
(This is a reprint of a post I wrote awhile ago, but it bears repeating!)
When I ended my straight marriage, I felt like I was walking off a cliff. After all, I was leaving a safe cocoon–a place of security–and was headed for the great unknown. And that great unknown appeared to be a very [...]
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Posted on +00002008-10-19T08:21:17+00:00312008bUTCSun, 19 Oct 2008 08:21:17 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
There are loads of reasons people give for staying in unhappy relationships. Here are a few of the most popular: I made a commitment, if I leave it will break my partners heart, I can’t afford to leave, it will hurt my children, and, my favorite, if I leave how do I know I’ll find [...]
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Posted on +00002008-10-18T08:57:41+00:00312008bUTCSat, 18 Oct 2008 08:57:41 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
If you are a lesbian and you are just coming out, you will discover that dating is a whole new experience from what you may be used to with men. One of the differences is in reading the signs that a woman is interested in you. This is important because, unlike heterosexual dating, you or [...]
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Posted on +00002008-10-15T22:26:41+00:00312008bUTCWed, 15 Oct 2008 22:26:41 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
Posted on +00002008-10-11T14:30:23+00:00312008bUTCSat, 11 Oct 2008 14:30:23 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
You really don’t have to look very far today to find great lesbian role models. There are many highly successful women, representing more and more fields, who are openly lesbian. This is great news for women who are deciding whether or not to come out and afraid that doing so will ruin their life. Apparently, [...]
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Posted on +00002008-10-09T22:59:00+00:00312008bUTCThu, 09 Oct 2008 22:59:00 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
It is not unusual for gays and lesbians to enter into straight marriages. That happens because of social pressure and the desire to feel “normal.” However, after several years of “trying” and unhappiness, why do gays and lesbians stay in these marriages? There is a state of inability to act that takes place, a state [...]
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Posted on +00002008-10-09T21:26:53+00:00312008bUTCThu, 09 Oct 2008 21:26:53 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
Usually when we think of coming out as gay or lesbian, we are referring to telling people about our sexual orientation. There is more to it than that though, especially in the first stages of the process. I like to explain this as “layers” of coming out. The best way to explain this is by [...]
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Posted on +00002008-10-05T12:23:13+00:00312008bUTCSun, 05 Oct 2008 12:23:13 +0000 2, 2007 by Pat
If you are not properly prepared to come out as gay or lesbian, the experience is a lot like living the “naked dream.” You know the dream I am talking about. The one where you leave your house, walk down the street, talk to the neighbors, all the while knowing you have no clothes on. [...]
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