Money, Marriage And Coming Out Gay

How can money affect your coming out as gay or lesbian? Well, maybe not at all, but maybe a lot! For lesbians and gays who are in hetero relationships and have debt and shared property, coming out can hinge heavily on finances. This is especially true if you have reason to believe that coming out [...]

Discovering Pride Coaching Now Offered Worldwide!

Through the magic of Skype and Paypal, I am now offering services worldwide! If you speak English, I can be your coach! Contact me at pat@discoveringpride.com to arrange a time to talk!

LGBT Coaching Is The Best

I am loving my work as a coach! Nearly all of my blog posts are informative or newsworthy, but I really just have to share my personal joy at what I am doing. Watching people grow, master their fears and reach their goals has been a fabulous experience, not only for my clients, but also [...]

Homo-genized: Why It’s Hard To Admit You’re Gay

Why is it that some of us do not realize we are gay or lesbian until midlife? It seems like a pretty basic thing to know about yourself: are you attracted to men or women? End of story. Unfortunately is is not that simple. Some of us are attracted to both genders, but predominantly to [...]

Coming Out Lesbian: If I Can Do It, Anyone Can

You’ve heard people say that before, but in my case it is really true. I was so terrified of coming out, I couldn’t even come out to myself until I was around 40! Yeah, I had attractions to women all my life, been in love even (secretly), but incredibly I never associated that with being [...]

Opposing Views dot com

There is an interesting website called Opposing Views that features several gay issues. Experts from both sides of an issue post their views and readers can comment. The experts then have the opportunity to rebut.
Check out the discussion “Is Homosexuality a Sin? “
or “Should marriage for Same Sex Couples Be Legal?“
If you are gay or [...]

Scared To Come Out Gay?

Hey, who wouldn’t be scared of coming out? Everybody that comes out is scared to some extent. Look at it this way, if it didn’t scare the begeezus out of people, there would be no closet in the first place! You’d figure out you are gay and say, “hey, guess what, I’m gay.” But [...]

How Do I Know If I Am Gay (Or Lesbian)?

If you are struggling to define your sexual orientation, one of the best things you can do is to stop trying. Putting a label on yourself isn’t really all that necessary. A better approach is to simply be open to love, where ever it comes from. Over time, you will figure out your sexual orientation.
In [...]

Heaven Help Us–Protect Us From Palin

NOTE: This is a dangerous and fallacious form of “treatment” that does not work and may even emotionally harm those who try it. At best it confuses and makes gays feel guilty for what is natural to us. At worst, it harms entire families when gays are inspired to get married and have kids after [...]

What’s It Feel Like To Be A Lesbian?

I’ve actually had a couple of people ask me this question recently. At first it seems almost impossible to respond to. Hmmm, what’s it feel like to have blue eyes? Or curly hair? Or to be a heterosexual for that matter? It’s like, normal! I am totally at ease in my skin as a lesbian. [...]