Denial And Sexual Orientation

Are you in denial about your true sexual orientation? Well, if you are even thinking about what your orientation might be, you have just let in a ray of sun. When you are in deep denial, you are not able to let that thought penetrate your conscious awareness. I know that sounds incredible, but it [...]

5 Relationship Advantages For Gays And Lesbians

As homosexuals, we can learn a lot from the success of eHarmony’s “dimensions of compatibility.” On that popular heterosexual dating site, the premise is that the more alike the partners are, the more likely the relationship will succeed. In fact, eHarmony claims that 90 couples get married every day due to the success of their [...]

Gay In A Straight Marriage: Divorce or Stay?

As a coach working with gays and lesbians who are coming out in midlife, I am often called upon to help people sort out whether to stay in or leave their heterosexual marriage. It’s not an easy question to answer. Things to consider are the individual’s feelings toward their spouse, the existence of another lover, [...]

5 Reasons For Coming Out

Coming out is a rite of passage for gays and lesbians. To some extent we all need to do it, starting with ourselves in simple recognition of our orientation. Next we come out to the gay or lesbian community, usually propelled by the desire to find a partner. After this point many of us languish [...]

Beyond Pride: Gay And Lesbian Nirvana

When I was first accepting my homosexuality, I remember having a discussion about pride with another married woman in the same position. We were wondering exactly what there was to be proud of…after all, this was not some great accomplishment we had achieved. We hadn’t worked to get to become lesbians and in fact had [...]

Life Coaching Versus Therapy For Gays And Lesbians

Life coaching is a new and exciting way for people to work through their problems and get on with life…a life that is more rewarding than it was before. Unfortunately, coaching is a little known field and is often confused with therapy. The mission of coaching is to move people toward goal achievement. This is [...]

Coming Out In Midlife: Am I A Lesbian?

One of the most difficult hurdles you will probably face when coming out in midlife is the initial realization and acceptance of your sexual identity. On message boards, people in this phase often say they are questioning or curious. When trying to figure this out for yourself, it is important to examine the reason you [...]